Reproductive Loss

The loss of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, or through continued unsuccessful efforts at family planning can lead to intense feelings of sadness and grieving, referred to as reproductive loss or reproductive grief.

These emotions can be complex and difficult to process, and many women often suffer alone, especially when this loss occurs before they have shared the news that they are pregnant with friends and family.

You are not alone as you face the aftermath of reproductive loss. Healing and hope are possible. Whether you have experienced miscarriage, abortion, adoption, infertility, or stillbirth, grieving is essential for recovery. We are here to walk alongside you.

We can walk with you through the healing journey.

Reproductive grief is different from other forms of grief because you are grieving the loss of a future.

Unlike the loss of a loved one whom we have known and been able to spend time with in the past, reproductive loss is unique in that it leaves a void in the future in the shape of an unmet child.

Reproductive grief also often has an element of disenfranchised grief, a term that refers to grief that feels like it cannot be publicly or openly acknowledged because it is stigmatized by society. In these situations, the feeling of loss often feels unjustified and may go unacknowledged or ignored.

Also,the bonding process between mother and the developing fetus often begins extremely early, so it can be hard to articulate the intense feeling of loss when that pregnancy ends.

Reproductive loss through abortion.

Abortion is a deeply personal decision that can result in a range of different feelings. You may feel relieved or find that you are having a challenging time coping emotionally after making this decision, or even a combination of the two.

Feelings of guilt, sadness, depression, and grief after abortion are more common than many think, and it is possible for feelings of unease to come on immediately or hit you suddenly weeks or even years after the procedure. A steep decline in the pregnancy hormones estrogen and progesterone may cause mood swings and emotional unrest, while internal moral, religious or societal beliefs may contribute to feelings of guilt and shame and lead to depression or anxiety.

Women who already suffer from mental health challenges like depression or anxiety may also be more susceptible to experiencing deep depressive episodes.

If you are struggling to heal after a miscarriage or still birth, New Life can help you find resources that can help.

1 in 4 women lose their baby during pregnancy, delivery, or infancy.

If you find yourself overwhelmed or in need of local support, find a counselor in your area or contact one of our locations to assist you. While New Life Resource Center is not a professional counseling site, nor is it meant to replace professional counseling, we are happy to help connect you to whatever resources you may need.

Sometimes a reproductive loss experience can create intense emotions that you may not feel equipped to deal with on your own.

If you feel this is an emeregency, call 911 immediately.

Loss via Infertility.

Infertility is a condition that prevents the conception of a baby. The diagnosis of infertility is usually given to couples who have been trying to conceive for at least one year without success. Dealing with infertility may cause you to feel disconnected from your body and your reproductive health. You may feel like you are failing yourself and your partner. You may be worried about how fertility issues will impact your relationship and future dreams of having a family.

Women who have miscarried or had unsuccessful attempts at in vitro fertilization (IVF), may be hesitant to try again as it is costly, time-consuming, and emotionally draining. Fertility problems impact everyone differently and you may not be sure where you can turn for support.

We can help you build a path to support.

You are seen, you are supported, and what you are going through is valid.

You are stronger than you know, and reaching out for support is a brave and positive choice. We are here for you.

People’s experiences and emotional reactions to reproductive loss can vary widely, and not everyone will feel the need for healing or counseling. However, for those who do, there are various resources and compassionate, non-judgmental providers available to assist in the healing process.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing after reproductive loss. Nor is it one-and-done. The goal is to help individuals move forward in a healthy and emotionally balanced way filled with hope toward the future.

We can support you in building the path that fits your journey. Call today!

Learn more about coping with the loss here.

Give yourself permission to feel.

Allow yourself the grace and time to feel everything you need to feel. It is important that you treat yourself with patience, kindness, and compassion, and recognize the only way forward is through.